A Great Date

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A Friday evening date night is a rarity indeed.  Sometimes we choose for it to be a family night and sometimes one or both of us still has to work.  Or sometimes we may both just be exhausted.  But on this night the stars aligned, the sitter was booked, and we were on our way to see the new Bourne movie.  From start to finish it was a great escape that was clever and not simply mindless violence (of which I am not a fan).  Then we held hands as we strolled through the park to go to one of my favorite restaurants.  Everything was in the mall so it was one stop shopping, no pun intended.  The beautiful park used to be a parking lot and, for an August summer night in Texas, it wasn’t too hot.  At Seasons 52 we got our favorite server and the vegetarian in me delighted in the fresh, seasonal dishes they were offering.  This isn’t the most exciting picture but it captured a happy memory for me.  The corn soup was delicious and I also ordered a black truffle mushroom risotto.  Accompanying dinner was my wine selection from St. Francis vineyards.  I looked at Burk in a way I haven’t in years … with older eyes that were also new.  He looked so handsome and smelled so good.  We talked like we used to about everything from history and politics, to travel and the movie we had just seen.  American actress Alexandra Daddario said:

“I love to travel, and I think being whisked away somewhere for a vacation is a pretty amazing date.  But, I’m really into the basic movie and dinner.  It’s not where you are but who you’re with that really matters.”

I believe this is so true; who you’re with is everything.  The restaurant was quiet and we were relaxed knowing our little one was having fun at home playing with her beloved sitter.  Invariably, since we have become parents, our conversation always comes back to our little one.  It was time to get home.  We missed her and wondered what she was doing.  And that was OK.  In fact, it made it a great date.

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Shirley Temple And My Curly Top

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When I was born I am told I had red hair just like my mother, who also had red hair.  She was ecstatic and said she was not even concerned with my fingers and toes or anything else — it was good enough for her that I had red hair.  Days later it all fell completely out and I remained bald for several years.  Around two and a half there is a horrid picture of me with about three sprigs of hair each sticking straight out from behind both of my ears, lending me a somewhat Dr. Spockish appearance.  Daddy used to say Mama would get so angry because she would always put me in frilly dresses and frilly socks and people would say I was a cute little boy.  When my hair did grow in it was a sort of blonde red.  My little one was born with the lightest dusting of red blonde hair so striking contrasted against her long, jet black lashes (from my half Choctaw father).  She pretty much stayed bald for her first two years and, like me, people would say she “sure was a pretty little fella”.  I never took offense because I detested bows on babies with no hair and I still cannot stand giant bow-headed little girls.  It’s like they’re all bow and nothing else.  Anyway, when my Baby Doll’s hair did grow in it started to curl; that’s courtesy of her daddy’s fabulous hair.  Immediately every one everywhere we went began calling her Shirley Temple.  She is precocious and I do think she looks an awful lot like her.  Last Halloween it was a no-brainer:  I put her in a short sailor dress, gave her a giant lollipop, and there wasn’t one person who needed help knowing who she was.  It transcended race, gender, age, and ethnicity.  I was surprised because I didn’t think anyone really remembered Shirley Temple anymore; she was Hollywood’s number one box-office star from 1935 to 1938.  Although I was thrilled they did because I loved Shirley Temple as a child actor and admired her work in adulthood as a United States Ambassador.  In 1935, the movie musical “Curly Top” debuted.  The lead song is exactly how my naturally curly headed little one makes me feel:

Curly Top”

Whenever clouds start gathering
To cover up the sun
It really doesn’t mean a thing to me
It seems a tiny miracle
Comes to me on a run
And never fails to bring a remedy
She’s just a little curly headed thing
Who creeps into my heart and makes it sing
Curly top
You little bundle of joy
Curly Top
You’re like a wonderful toy
You’re just so full of sunshine
Folks agree
You could supply the world
With Vitamin D
Two eyes that make
The heavens proud to be blue
Angel cake
It’s just a copy of you
Take ev’rything that’s sweet
All rolled into one
That can’t top you
Curly Top

Just like during the Great Depression, we need a little more happiness and innocence in this world.  She is mine; my little Curly Top.

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Over My Heart

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My favorite song of all time has been “The Rose” by Bette Midler from the moment I first heard it:

Some say love, it is a river
that drowns the tender reed
Some say love, it is a razor
that leaves your soul to bleed
Some say love, it is a hunger
an endless aching need
I say love, it is a flower
and you, it’s only seed

It’s the heart, afraid of breaking
that never learns to dance
It’s the dream, afraid of waking
that never takes the chance
It’s the one who won’t be taken
who cannot seem to give
And the soul, afraid of dying
that never learns to live

When the night has been too lonely
and the road has been too long
And you think that love is only
for the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter
far beneath the bitter snow
Lies the seed that with the sun’s love,
In the spring becomes the rose

I cannot explain why but I felt led to take out my mother’s rose necklace today.  I have blogged previously about the significance behind it.  She never took it off from the day Daddy gave it to her until she had to go into assisted living on Valentine’s Day in 2011.  I remember her telling me she wanted me to have it and I was sickened by the thought.  I told her I would just hold on to it for her for safekeeping.  The day after Thanksgiving it will have been two years since her passing and I have still not been able to bring myself to look at Mama’s things.  When I lifted up her necklace it brought her back to me instantly and vividly in a way that was comforting and good.  It was so familiar to me; I knew every curve of gold in its petals like the freckles on my skin.  A feeling of love and gentle warmth that was my mother flooded and surrounded me like the sun.  Because of those feelings I have decided to wear it to remind myself of her daily.  My husband has remarked several times how well he thinks it looks on me and that it reminds him of my mother.  So much sadness is still buried far beneath the bitter snow but underneath it lies her love and, resting comfortably is her rose over my heart.

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A World With Wolves

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I have stated this before; I either find wolves or they find me.  In this case my little one and I were walking to Starbucks and I stopped right after I noticed this advertisement for frozen food at a grocery store.  It is clever and adorable!  From Paris to Dallas, San Francisco to Seville, Antigua to Alaska, Venice to Vancouver, and all sorts of places in between I have found them, or they have found me.  I have seen them on coins, ancient tiles, and tapestries; in statuary, murals, and stained glass.  I have bought artisans’ crafts from all over with wolves carved from gems, woven in baskets, and burned into gourds.  American essayist Henry David Thoreau once said, “It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.”  I see a world with wolves, where they run free in the wild and are protected from trapping; where the only shooting allowed is from the lenses of cameras.  I see a world where they have families that strengthen our national parks and the whole earth both environmentally and economically.  A world with wolves — what a wonderful world indeed.

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She Walks In Beauty

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“She walks in beauty, like the night
Of cloudless climes and starry skies,
And all that’s best of dark and bright
Meets in her aspect and her eyes;
Thus mellow’d to that tender light
Which Heaven to gaudy day denies.

One shade the more, one ray the less,
Had half impair’d the nameless grace
Which waves in every raven tress
Or softly lightens o’er her face,
Where thoughts serenely sweet express
How pure, how dear their dwelling-place.

And on that cheek and o’er that brow
So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,
The smiles that win, the tints that glow,
But tell of days in goodness spent,—
A mind at peace with all below,
A heart whose love is innocent.” ~ Lord Byron, English Poet

She walks in beauty even in sleep.  I would say auburn tresses rather than raven, but she definitely has a heart whose love is innocent.  I pray she continues to walk in grace and beauty all the days of her life.  She is my greatest achievement, my gift from God, and the legacy of all those whose blood she carries who have gone before her.  She is destined for great things.  And she is my whole heart.  I walk in beauty because of her.

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Caution: Wolfies At Play

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Our wolf hybrids love to play.  They especially love their squeaky toys.  The sad part for me is in seeing them destroyed … cute little bunnies, foxes, and raccoons.  Typically the toys have two squeakers each … one in the head and one in the tail.  Cheyenne and Dakota love to play tug-of-war with them and then they take turns chasing each other snatching the toys back and forth.  Recently my little one discovered the squeakers are no longer plain white disks; now they are making them into red hearts.  I find this cool and a little sad at the same time.  Their toys typically don’t last long but it is better than the alternative of them eating all our furniture.  A friend of mine actually patented some dog toys years ago and made a killing.  I have stated before wolf hybrids should not be pets.  They are high strung and require lots of attention.  But I have devoted over half of my life to them and I understand them.  Australian filmmaker Tim Cope said:

“Perhaps most important for nomads was the belief in the symbiosis that existed between wolf and humans on the steppe.  Wolves were an integral part of keeping the balance of nature, ensuring that plagues of rabbits and rodents didn’t break out, which in turn protected the all-important pasture for the nomads’ herds.”

Wolves have been vilified for centuries and thankfully man is finally starting to understand again their gentle nature and the critical role they play in our environment as both apex predators and a keystone species.  There is still so much to be learned from them.  They must be protected and preserved … and allowed to play.

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San Francisco

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It was the final day of our trip.  We had ridden up in a little cable car on a crazy steep hill and had gone down the famed Lombard Street with its eight hairpin turns.  It has been claimed to be “the most crooked street in the world” and I believe it.  But still no sign of my beloved St. Francis.  And then I did a little research.  It turns out the Mission San Francisco de Asis was founded in 1776 and is both the oldest intact Mission in California and also the oldest building in San Francisco!  It was incredible going into a building that had survived earthquakes and was as old as the founding of our country.  Then I discovered the National Shrine of Saint Francis of Assisi.  I had wanted to visit Assisi and Gubbio while we were in Italy on our honeymoon but we just couldn’t swing it.  Imagine my surprise when I discovered exquisite Italian murals portraying the life of St. Francis and radiant stained glass throughout the length of the church.  Finally I had discovered him in these two holy places.  Since it was our last night, we decided to take a romantic dinner boat cruise around the bay at sunset.  When we came up to the dock this guy took one look at Burk and said, “Way to go player!” which we both took as a funny compliment.  I was wearing my beautiful red cape and we were happy and relaxed.  American photographer Imogen Cunningham once said, “I think San Francisco is the best place in the whole world for an easy life.”  After dessert we headed up for dancing to a great live band.  For as long as I live I will never forget passing under the Golden Gate Bridge, all lit up, with the lights of San Francisco twinkling off in the distance.  And of course the last song they sang was “I Left My Heart in San Francisco.”  I sure did.

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Red Woods And Red Wine

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On this day we booked a tour of Muir Woods followed by some Napa wineries.  A giant bus picked us up at our hotel and we were off.  Muir Woods is a national monument for a reason.  Only twelve miles north of San Francisco, it protects 240 acres of old growth coast redwood forest (Sequoias) and is one of the few small areas remaining in the San Francisco Bay area.  These precious trees can only be found in a narrow, cool coastal belt from California in the south to Oregon in the north.  Before logging hit, there were an estimated two million acres of old growth forest containing redwoods growing along this narrow strip along the coast.  It is sickening really.  In 1908 President Theodore Roosevelt declared the land a National Monument.  Named after the famed naturalist John Muir, his environmental campaigns helped establish the National Park system.  I have no words to adequately convey the silent majesty of this small forest.  Pine needles lent silence to our steps as we approached one area aptly named “The Cathedral.”  They even posted a sign requesting no talking in acknowledgement of its tranquility.  It was literally like worshipping God in church and I had no doubt it was sacred; possibly even more so than edifices built by man.  In a huge semi-circle these majestic giants encircled us, and it was both humbling and awe-inspiring.  I had been through Sequoias as a child and they had always stayed with me.  This brought it all back and made me feel as if I’d never left.  Muir once said:

“Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to play in and pray in, where nature may heal and give strength to body and soul.”

Burk and I both hated to leave this sacred spot of peace that is but a remnant of what once was.  But next it was on to wine tasting and I noticed our bus became a little louder with each increasing stop.  The Germans (whom we did not know were German) started to unwind and practice their English.  People began chatting with each other more freely and let down their guards.  By the time we broke for lunch folks were pretty well “loosened up.”  My husband likes sweet, white wines and I prefer heavy reds so we kept switching in mild embarrassment after we were given a glass to sample.  Everyone ambled out in the sunshine to feed the turtles in one of the vineyard’s ponds and I remember thinking it was awfully quiet on the way back.  We had a great day, full of beauty and discovery; learning and adventure.  I’d say we painted the town red.

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Chinese Cats, Dogs, Fish, Dragons And A Swan

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It was day four of our trip and we decided to head out to Chinatown.  I had seen Chinatowns in Vancouver, New York, and even Montreal but San Francisco boasted the oldest in North America as well as the largest Chinese community outside Asia.  I was worried about seeing dead animals hanging from windows and I am GREATLY relieved to report I never saw any, thank the Lord.  We passed under the famous green Dragon Gate flanked by massive Foo Dogs; Imperial guardian lions.  Tourists were milling up and down the steep street in and out of shops jammed with all kinds of goods made in China.  Colored parasols blocked ceilings, tiny goldfish resided in delicate blue and white porcelain bowls, and “Fortune Cat” figurines were everywhere.  I have read the calico is considered to be the luckiest.  The white represents happiness, purity, and positive things to come.  Black is supposed to ward off evil spirits.  Gold is for wealth and prosperity.  Green is for good health and red means success in love and relationships.  I had also wondered about the significance of why some of their paws were raised — I saw right, left, and even both in the air.  Every time I’d ask all I could get in reply was “Lucky Money Cat” and I guess they figured that’s all I needed to know.  We saw jade, silk, and long, winding red paper dragons alongside delicate hanging lanterns in every color.  Outside I gave cash (SO GLAD I remembered to bring some again!) to an elderly man playing my favorite, the Chinese violin.  In addition, he was effortlessly coaxing one of my most beloved classical pieces from its strings; French composer Camille Saint-Saens’ “The Swan.”  He played passionately and with an expert gentleness that suggested either years of practice or great innate talent.  Regardless, I felt my little acquisition of a “lucky cat” had already benefitted me, even though it did not bring me any money.  Some things are priceless … like coming out on a sunny day and listening to the painfully beautiful strains of an exquisite piece of music being carried on the wind.  The American playwright Tennessee Williams once said, “Luck is believing you’re lucky.”  I agree.  And with my handsome husband by my side I was lucky indeed.

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Over The Moon Bridge

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The third day we headed out to the Japanese Tea Garden.  Part of Golden Gate Park, it was originally built during the World’s Fair in 1894.  It is the oldest Japanese garden in the United States with a complex of paths, ponds, and a teahouse featuring plants and trees pruned and arranged in the Japanese style.  Its three acres contain statuary and structures influenced by Buddhist and Shinto beliefs as well as many elements of water and rocks to create a calming landscape.  All this was ours to enjoy on this morning and with no entry fees.  Dallas could learn something from them.  This wooden moon bridge was placed with a high arch so its reflection in the still water forms a circle, symbolizing the moon.  And from the moon to the tides, we wound up with a stunning view of the ocean for lunch.  Seated behind floor-to-ceiling glass, we saw blue sky, rolling white waves, and several giant Seal Rocks rising up out of the sea.  The historic restaurant was literally as far as one can go on the West Coast — Land’s End — and the views of the Pacific were magnificent.  It was made all the more lovely because this day was our anniversary.  I always search for some place special or unusual in some way to celebrate and for dinner we ate at Forbes Island.  Built in 1975 by a millionaire houseboat designer, it was a private home opened to public dining in 1980.  As we are both children of the ’70’s, it had all the swank of our early childhood (oh yeah) and we LOVED it!  A sharp dressed captain in a little boat took us out and we were warmly greeted as soon as we set foot on board.  We actually dined below deck and could see fish swimming outside of the portholes.  The bar was fabulous, as was the service and the food.  Walking around was an absolute blast.  Above board it had sand, a waterfall, and actual palm trees growing!  Plus we got to go all the way up the winding spiral staircase to the top of the 40 foot working lighthouse!  It is the only privately built lighthouse in the United States and is equipped with a lens made in France dating back to 1820.  This place was probably the best we have ever chosen to spend our anniversary dinner in the now nine years we have been married.

“In small proportions we just beauties see; And in short measures, life may perfect be.” ~ 17th century English playwright Ben Jonson

It was the perfect end to a perfect day and we were both over the moon bridge.

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